trying to, trying to

According to Cambridge Phrasal Verbs Dictionary, fit in means:

1. to feel happy in a group of people because you are similar to them
2. if one thing fits in with another thing, they look pleasant together or are suitable for each other
3. to be part of a situation, system, or plan
4. to be able to be done between other activities


Okay, we'll use all of the definition here except for no.4. Why? Because I want to talk about fitting in. We, as a human, divided into 2 categories. As a biological creature and a social creature. At least that what I have been taught. As a biological creature we need to eat, breathe, and sleep. While as a social one we need other people whether to help each other or to interact with each other


As we're given the ability to adapt in a new situation or to fit in, we usually do everything in our power to adjust ourselves into it. And when we live in a society there are some moral codes or rules that we need to comply. Either it's how to dress, how to talk, or how to behave. It depends on every society.

My question is, how far will you go to fit in in a society or a smaller one, group? Yes, everybody needs to belong to. It's the third need in the Maslow's hierarchy. The need of belonging and love.
Okay you have to be fashionable to belong to a popular group. So you change the way you dress. The next step will be, you need to be thin, then you starve yourself. later on, you need to be as cool as the others so you might need to smoke or do drugs. And so on..

What happen to diversity? Why do you need to be the exact replica of the others? I get that we need something in common to click. But to what extend? Next step might be a cosmetic surgery or even changing your orientation. Do we really have to go along the way just to be accepted? Or maybe, maybe we just fall into the wrong group. Then again, the definition said that "to feel happy in a group of people because you are similar to them", I think sacrificing and changing yourself that much won't make you that happy.

the shoes SEARCH !

ta-da, the third post!

Okay sorry, not funny. Forgive my too-caffeinated brain. Anyway we're in the shoes search today. Who's we? Well, there are Anggi, Aji, Laura, and of course yours truly (yes, moi.) We are the culprits. No, it's not a band or a gank or anything. I just like to say it because when we are together, usually we'll do something wrong. For instance, taking too much photos instead of doing the work, taking wrong turn and get ourselves in the wrong street. Yeah you know boring little things like that. So yes, we aren't thugs or anything. Just a bunch of crazy ordinary college girls. Back to my topic, the shoes search.

So maybe I exaggerate a little here (coughing) to even called it a search. BUT, I do have a reason for it. It started when a long time ago. Well, a year ago actually, my friend, Laura, needed to find a new pair of shoes. Being a good friend (and also a shopaholic), I offered to accompany her to find new shoes. I thought it would be a piece of cake, since I myself is a quick shopper. But, that not the case here with my friend Laura. She needs a looooooong time to find shoes that she likes. Long story short, I was quite depressed as she recalled because we didn't find new shoes at the of our trip. So she went searching again with Aji the very next day. Finally found one.

Therefore, when she needs to find another new pair of shoes the next year (meaning now), she cautiously warned me about the last experience. Me, being myself of course did not listen. So, today we went to Wondershoe in search of new shoes for Laura. From the information that we gathered, the store is located in Kemanggisan. After spending about an hour and half for searching the store we finally found it. But, Aji and Anggi who were in the other car, failed to notice the store. So, I honked and honked and honked but to no avail. Those two didn't notice us! Given up, I phoned Aji and explained that we found it.

Fortunately, our trip wasn't in vain! Laura found a new pair of shoes and so did I! Yeah I know, I definitely don't need a new ones, but hey, I just love shoes as much as the next girl if not more. Beside, you can't have TOO much shoes ;)

P.S: The shoe store, Wondershoe is worth to be checked out as some of you have already known.

Sort of knew but NOT really.

Hello folks!

It's a beautiful Sunday, isn't it? I started my not-so-morning day, drinking my not-so-morning coffee. Anyway,I want to ask you a few questions.
Have you ever think that you know someone (in this case your friend) and suddenly, you found out a few months later that he/she isn't what you think they are? Like they changed, or maybe it just the way they are. So in this case, you have actually made friend with the fake his/her?

Well, if you ever been in this situation, you must understand what I am talking about.
And before you ask, no it isn't your bestfriend or your amour. Because let's face it that way would be more difficult to understand. I simply talk about a mere friend here. I know this person for about 2 years. He/she is a quite good friend of mine and also a good person, albeit with no backbone. You know, someone who can't stand up for his/herself. But they're good. or dare I say it? Innocent. A very rare quality, isn't it?
And then life happens, we're very busy with our own activities, and we're rarely meet or chit-chat. I found about his/her news from other people.

I met his/her in a rare occasions, and thought that he/she is such a different person now. Does not have that innocence anymore, which is good in some way. Has more backbone. BUT, also a helluva more superficial. Some in a good and bad way.
We do know that people change and forget to tell each other as Lillian Hellman once said. And frankly, I'm not oppose to change. Because change is good if you change for the better you and not losing yourself somewhere along the way.

Bienvenue!

Okay let's give it a shot.

First, bienvenue or welcome to anyone who stumbles across my blog, La Noirceur. which means blackness or evil deed. Now, before you start to think that I'm into violence or gothic, I assure you that I'm not. Though no offense to anyone who does. The reason of its name is purely because it sounds cool and in French. Well, of course not! I'm not that shallow (well a lil bit maybe..) But no, it because the meaning is what resemble me the most. In the sense that I'm not into crime or anything but I do have evil mind ;)
Although my friend first said that procrastinating suited me much better, I couldn't find the French match. Enough with my nonsense rambling about the name.

Second, you must be wondering why I'm here. Well, that's if you still reading and not yet feel the need to gag due to my chatter (because I do!). Back to why, it's solely because it's obligatoire. Not the best motivation per se, but I do need to pass the class so here we are. Honestly, I'm not that fond of pouring my feelings or thoughts into writing, tho I do love reading. Thus, I must say that it was so dang hard for me to start. As the wise businessman J.C Penney once said, "It is always the start that requires the greatest effort."
I'm completely in sync with Mr.Penney about that one. Considering my idleness and the constant need to procrastinate, blogging or writing will be a great challenge for me. Hopefully once I started, I could finish. Props to every other bloggers since I'm amazed with all of you! I believe that writing your feelings or any kind of thoughts needs a great courage. Something that I lack, I guess.
So, I'm willing to learn from you! Any kind of comments or feedback will be very welcome.

P.S: let's hope that I won't bore you to tears with my musings and keep our fingers crossed.


au revoir,
.FINA